Permission to buy you a drink

“… so I walk in and my first impression was, wow this dude has spent way to much time at taco bell, he def was a few pounds over and then some, but hey I'm open-minded…”

A friend of mine goes on a date with a regular looking guy. She was feeling a lil bit under the weather, but decided to go on this date anyways. She walks in. He’s at the bar drink in hand. She approaches. They go through introductions, and then he keeps drinking. She waits a bit. Nothing happens. WHERE’S HER DRINK? She announces that she’s going to order a drink, to what he awkwardly replies “oh, hmmm. Would you like me to get it for you?” At this point in her mind (and in mine had I been in her shoes) she KNEW this was going nowhere. She calls the bartender. Orders a glass of wine and pays for it herself. Drinks it… and goes home right after. Her mind is made up. She will never see this guy again.

Why would this DUFUS ask for permission to buy a woman a drink. Shouldn’t that be like an automatic thing? Don’t get me wrong, a guy should never order a drink blindly, but if your date is right smack in front of you and you are thinking of ordering yourself a drink (or already have one by the time she arrives) and you are a MAN, you SHOULD ask your lovely date if she wants something to drink. Its that plain… and simple.

Funny thing is that this idiot dared to call her for a follow-up. Pretty ballsy don’t you think?

If only women would stop breeding weaklings and sorry ass excuses for men. Call me old fashioned if you may, but I still think it sexy when a man takes charge.

Back on the dating train

Well shoot me now and put me out of my misery!

It's a new year and I just found out, once again (after throwing in the towel for a few months) that dating doesn't get any better. No matter with what mind-frame I come into it, the results are the same. It's mind boggling. The question keeps popping in my head... "ARE THERE ANY "NORMAL"-REGULAR-RESPECTFUL-NICE-HONEST MEN OUT THERE?!?!?!!"

*sigh* Nevermind I asked that question. Moving on... As i was saying, I am back on the dating train, and with that, my online profile up and public. A lot more simpler, a lot less words, a lot less honest... a lot mellower... Lets see what bites.

In the meantime, while browsing the swamp of online profiles, I found this: >  >  > >

Hmmm... You think this qualifies as one of those "Things I will regret in the next two years" type list? I think so.

Just keel me

So it’s Wednesday, and I’ve been cranky since Monday morning… what else is new?

I dunno, but there’s just something about the forces of the universe that I swear just LOVES to mess with my inner “peace”, well… the very little wee bits I have left. Today thanks to the #VillageVoice I come to learn that cell phone service is alive underground. Yes… now, not only do I have to hear loud inconsiderate bastards’ one way conversations in buses, I’ll be able to hear them yap away while cramped like sardines in the subways too. YAY! You read right my dear friends… someone will be yapping away right in your fucking ear in a subway near you. Like subway riding wasn’t annoying enough. Happy travels!!!

More of it here.

It doesn't have to be dirty

We all know that NYC is disgusting!  Whoever thinks or claims or even dares to say that NYC is a clean city should be shot in the head.  Plain and simple.

I have come up with a great solution to this problem.  How about we get all those parasites that are on welfare and put them to work?  They ARE receiving money, pay super cheap rents and receive health benefits while the workers have to break their backs to barely make it to pay $800+ rents and some of us can't afford to have health benefits.  Welfare people receive money for sitting on their asses.  How about we give them money and cheap rents in exchange for a lil clean-up?  If we put every single one of these parasites to work cleaning our streets, subways and parks, we would have a prettier/cleaner city.

The city wouldn't have to create jobs and look for funding for these jobs since these people are already getting "paid" and receiving "benefits."

Why hasn't this been done yet???

IF I WERE PRESIDENT.

Not far from the truth.

Daily News did it again!

We'll I can't be complaining ALL the time! LOL

I wanna give yet another GRACIAS to the Daily News for providing me with FOUR more tickets to go see the Yankees v. Texas Rangers. I will be taking three lucky girlfriends to the game.

@ the Yankees v. (I forgot who the opossing team was) game 5/11/2011

I love freebies!!! YAY!

Damned shoes!

So last Saturday I went out with one of my good friends.

Our original plans were to have some drinks and then go watch a movie... or maybe drinks and dinner. Whatever. The point is that the main character of the night was going to be Mr. Booze. Cause... When your love life sucks and your job is a job is a job, all you wanna do is drink to make it all better... for a couple hours at least.

Well, we wanted a low key night and skip the aggravation of going to a bar or lounge and realize once again what we were NOT missing, so we decided against drinks at a bar and went straight for dinner... and drinks on the side. Simply deliciousness. She had her precious wine. I had my sweet Khalua & milk. She had her salad. I had my brazilian rice, beans and chicken... and then... we walked to the movies.

Sometimes I wished I had a motorized scooter so I could roll around Manhattan w/o a care in the world.

Not only my job is a pain in my ass and my love life totally sucks, but now my feet feel just how they look.

Why do I wear "cute" shoes again???

SHOOT ME!

Excuse YOU!

Have you ever been at a movie theater and decided to go to the bathroom before the movie starts so you wont miss a thing?

Well, last night I dared to make such a decision.

Just imagine me walking the long walk to the bathroom (I REALLY had to go), and as I am speeding up toward the glorious "WOMEN'S RESTROOM" sign, this man walking the opposite way, leans towards me and

Oh yes he did. He burped at me.

Now THAT's some new kinda sexy.

I wonder what I'll have to endure next.

Boys!!!

I'd like to give a shout out to the Daily News for picking my name out of however many, and making me a winer of four Yankee game tickets! Now, this one's not too fond of sports, let alone baseball, but I figured, there'll be a lot of men/boys there and what could be a better place to mingle with the oposite sex? Well, I don't know how much mingling one can do while these animal's testosterone raises to the highest levels imaginable, but I'm pretty sure I'll have good times with my 3 girl friends while holding an overpriced hot dog in one hand and an overpriced warm beer in the other. Is it quitting time yet???

So which one is it?

Sometimes I wonder… Why the ones that we don’t want are the ones that want us? Or… Is it that the ones that want us, we don’t want? I guess the question is, are we (or in this particular case, am I) emotionally available and/or able to open up and let someone in?

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not taking my words back. Yes, men are still assholes and players. But I am also aware that there are (even tho they are very very very few left) good and nice guys out there, which I have had the privilege to cross paths with… and kept on walking.

I dunno. I wonder if the time will come when I’m ready to jump, and if that day comes, will there be someone down there to catch me?

Dating in the "real world"

WHAT A CROCK OF SHIT!!!

Ok, now that I got that out of the way… lets talk dating… in your 30’s… in NYC. You would think it would be a piece of cake to date or to even meet a decent guy in this single packed city. Think again!

Yesterday a friend of mine and I went to this Victorian bar by Union Square with the hopes of a more mature crowd than what we have been seeing at bars lately. We are so sick and tired of the 20-something crowd. Lillies seemed like the perfect place. The crowd was a good mix of late 20s and late 30s and we were standing right in between. There were a few good looking guys (not too many cause if that was the case I’d think I died and went to heaven). Good music. Good bar food. Expectations went from zero to three (and believe me, three is a high number) in a matter of minutes. And then… FLOP!

Does any man in this city ever walk away from their “click” to talk to a woman he doesn't know? It just seems like all the men out there are more into their guy friends than anything else. How do singles meet other singles in the real world, when everybody’s too afraid to talk to each other. Is it really fear? Or is it something else?

I have tried to meet guys outside the online dating world… to no avail. What gives?

Dating

I think its time to get back on the dating train and see what happens. I’ve been dreading this moment for the longest but sometimes you just have to jump in.

I’ve heard from the same mouths over and over and over again “things will happen when you least expect them”, “you will meet him when you’re not looking”, “maybe you’re trying to hard”, “you’re not trying hard enough” and “if you don’t put yourself out there you will never meet anyone”. Um… damned if I do, damned if I don’t. ladies and gentlemen, we have a Catch 22 here!

Since obviously my “not single” friends have no idea what the hell they are talking about (either that or they just cant remember how bad it was when they weren't coupled up), I will still do things my way, but will keep in mind their messy advices.

One thing's for sure... I HATE THIS PART OF LIFE!

Diapers v. Walking Canes

I have been off the market (by choice) for a little while now, but lately I have been flirting with the idea and getting myself emotionally ready to jump back on the dating train. No easy task but if I want someone to massage my back when it hurts, and make me breakfast on the weekends, I suppose dating is a good way to start.

I am a 33 year old female that has been single since 2007 and dating on and off since then. I also have a few friends, within my age range, that have been single and mingling about the same time than yours truly. Being single in a city like this (New York) is no piece of cake. Lets keep in mind the male-female ratio, same not favorable to women (in this city). How do you compete in a market saturated by females where the “emotionally available” attractive male market is so scarce and women are giving out their good like its free candy? If you know the answer to that, please… PLEASE email me >>> igotadate@gmail.com <<<.

I consider myself a pro (nothing to be proud of) at online dating, and let me tell you that I keep seeing the same faces over and over again for YEARS. Needless to say, I still have profiles up in a couple sites but I only really use one of them (when I’m bored), which I browse to only see… repetition. Not only we (and when I say “we” I mean my female friends and I) have to deal with the weirdos that NYC and NJ has to offer, but we also have to weed out the professional players with electronic rosters, social misfits, and lets not forget about those with the Peter Pan Syndrome

Now another obstacle we have to jump ... Lately I have noticed that men in my age range do not want to date women in their 30’s as their profiles usually read “Age Preference: 19-29”. I’m sorry but if you are a 35-40 year old man, what in the world would you have in common with a 20 year old girl, and why in the world wouldn't you date a woman in their 30’s? We have also noticed that the emails we receive from “online men” are usually those from the ages between 22-25 and 45- and UP! Why is our pool full of diapers and walking canes?

CAN SOMEONE POINT ME TOWARDS WHERE THE "THIRTY-SOMETHINGS" MEN ARE?!?!

I can't even get cheap tickets to "special" events cause of my age! WTF!!!

This city just keeps sucking.

*Le Sigh*